Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Checking In

I’ve had lots of questions lately about the progress of our adoption, so I figured I better post an update for any loyal readers out there.  Needless to say, everything has been very quiet on the adoption front.  Basically we’re still waiting, but there were a few noteworthy events this week.
As I mentioned before, we found a general support and discussion group through Adoption Network Cleveland.  We’ve attended a few monthly meetings and are considering becoming members.  Unfortunately there aren’t any other couples in the same stage of adoption as we are, but there are a few regular attendees with different stories to share.  It’s been very informative (and emotional) to hear adoption experiences from over the years and from every point of view.  It’s amazing how the process has changed, even in the last twenty years.  We missed last month’s meeting, so we wanted to make sure we got there this month.  Unfortunately, we had a slight scheduling conflict.
We also had a Q&A session for waiting families with our agency last night.  Luckily, both meetings were in the same building so we were able to catch the tail end of the support group meeting.  It was a long and emotional night, knowing that there are a lot of other people going through what we are (or worse) and there is absolutely nothing that can be done about it.  We're all at the mercy of an expectant mother, an agency, an attourney, a social worker, a judge or government.
At the Q&A session we heard from families who have recently adopted through our agency.  It was bittersweet.  Obviously we were happy for these families, but at the same time we know that we were presented to the same birth mothers as they were.  You can’t help but think “that could be us.”  Most of the couples acknowledged that fact, and the general tone of the meeting was “we know what you’re going through.  We were there a few months ago.  The waiting sucks, but it’s so worth it in the end.  The child that’s meant to be yours will be yours.”  These messages were somewhat encouraging, but difficult to hear at the same time.
Our fundraisers are still going on, and we truly appreciate the support we’ve received so far.  You can find all fundraising information on the Fundraisers tab at the top of this page.
Other than that, we have been pretty busy – per usual.  We attended  a few baby care classes through our local hospital, we’ve watched our nieces and nephews a couple of times (always look forward to that!), we’ve joined a small group at church and meet a few times per month, Nate’s been super busy at work, we’ve had get-togethers with friends and family, somehow both of our cars got recall notices on the same day so we had to juggle getting to and from work while those issues were fixed, we were both due for the “oh-so-fun” preventative care doctor and dentist appointments and so on…  We did travel to Michigan in April to have some family photos taken by Julie Meadows Photography.  I had these made into a framed photo collage and sent it to my mom for Mother’s day.  I’m very happy with how they turned out!

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